Igor Delovski Board

[Ike]

What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage

"I listened, rapt, as professional trainers explained how they taught
dolphins to flip and elephants to paint. Eventually it hit me that the same
techniques might work on that stubborn but lovable species, the American
husband."

[XNote]

Here, 10 fascinating benefits to being unmarried

"Not only do you have the freedom to do anything you want—it’s also
the best time in history to be flying solo. The marriage rate has declined
nearly 50 percent since 1970, according to the National Marriage Project
at Rutgers University, and right now, there are approximately 100 million
singles in the U.S."

[XNote]

Bed sharing 'drains men's brains'

"Sharing a bed with someone could temporarily reduce your brain
power - at least if you are a man - Austrian scientists suggest."

[Ike]

"After all, your typical career girl is well-educated, ambitious, informed
and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure…at least until you get
married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful she is the more likely
she is to grow dissatisfied with you. Sound familiar?

Forbes: Don't Marry Career Women

"If a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women is
asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids,
they will be unhappy (Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be
unhappy if they make more money than you do (Social Forces, 2006).
You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do (Journal of
Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill (American
Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier (Institute for Social
Research)."

[Guest]

Mala analiza uzrujanog ženskog uma

"Ako si ti nešto zgriješio i ljuta je na tebe, cura će moći sagledati
cjelokupnu situaciju tj. i tvoje dobre strane tek kad se oslobodi negativnih
osjećaja koji su je u tom trenutku preplavili. Zato prilikom svađa spolova
često dolazi do ozbiljnih nesporazuma jer muška strana preozbiljno
shvaća ženske riječi."

[Maja]

Dijelovi predigre koje ona stvarno mrzi

Muškarci griješe što o zadovoljstvu sude na osnovi onoga što sami
vole - žene vole kad se po njihovom tijelu igrate jezikom, ali zubi nisu
uvijek dobrodošli

[Ike]

Salon: To breed or not to breed

"Studies show that couples who choose not to have children are happier
than those who do."

"Since the issues raised by this reader engendered such a spirited
discussion in our office, we decided that it was worth pondering in a public
forum. Why have children, anyway? And should you have them if you
don't feel a biological or emotional urge? If you don't, will you feel those
urges later, and regret it?"

[delovski]

Three Chick Flicks and Their Unintended Message

"We have people who quit school, do drugs, and mess up their lives because
they are striving to gratify feelings; we not only lose taxes and productivity
from these people, but we have to spend billions of dollars helping them get
their lives in order. However, we can't attack their lifestyles because that
would weaken their self-esteem."

[delovski]

imgur.com - She answered yes and we've been happily married ever since!

"I am glad he wasn't a proctologist..." - (on reddit)

[Ike]

r - Wife's happiness is more important than her husband's

"TIL that the wife's happiness is more important than her husband's when it
comes to keeping a happy, lasting marriage, in a study that surveyed older
couples married for an average of 39 years."

[Ike]

wp - One Woman's Midlife Quest for Passion at Any Cost

"She took a year off from her marriage to sleep with strangers. What could
go wrong? The Wild Oats Project by Robin Rinaldi"

[delovski]

Y! - Psychologists say you need these 3 compatibilities to have a successful marriage

"Chemistry is not everything," he said, "but if the chemistry is not there,
that's a tough thing to overcome. If the chemistry is more there for one
person than the other, that's tough to overcome. It's hard to build passion
if it's low at the beginning. If I could find a way to build passion where
passion was low, I'd be richer than Bill Gates."

[delovski]

y - Psychologists say one behavior is the kiss of death for a relationship

"Contempt, a virulent mix of anger and disgust, is far more toxic than simple
frustration or negativity. It involves seeing your partner as beneath you, rather
than as an equal.

Gottman and University of California at Berkeley psychologist Robert Levenson
found this single behavior is so powerful that they can use it - along with the
negative behaviors of criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling - to predict
divorce with 93% accuracy.

"Contempt," says Gottman, "is the kiss of death."

[XNote]

bbc - Men may have evolved better 'making up' skills

"Men's historical dominance of the workplace may, in part, be because of
their ability to reconcile with enemies after conflict, a new study suggests.

Researchers examined the aftermath of same-sex sporting events and fo-
und that men spent longer talking, touching or embracing their opponents
than women."

[delovski]

r - Divorced volunteer couples councilor/mentor gives fantastic and
insightful advice that can be applied to all serious relationships.

> Poor communication skills. A shockingly high number of adults lack basic
> healthy communication skills and conflict resolution skills.

"This seems like the key point in all of this, actually the two key points."

[delovski]

r - studied 169 newlywed heterosexual couples for the first 18 months of marriage

"A new study of 169 newlywed heterosexual couples found that after the
first 18 months of marriage husbands became more conscientious, and
wives became less anxious, depressed and angry. However, husbands
became less extroverted, and both husbands and wives became less
agreeable."

[delovski]

r - New study examines a model of how anger is perpetuated in relationships

"Being mistreated by a romantic partner evokes anger, that motivates reci-
procation, resulting in a cycle of rage. This may be broken but requires at
least one person to refuse to participate in the cycle of destructive behavior."